these cons were for cycling a tank and I didn't expect them to survive :-[ or even become mates my original cons for the 90 gal and another jd were put into then 45 gal that these fish cycled because now I know that the 90 was and is still overstocked.. when I moved them to the 29 gal to cycle it for the firemouth or one of the 2 green terrors they right away started to mate again in uncycled water .. we didn't want to get attached to these cons but you know how it goes . so they have taken over this tank now and my 90 is still overstocked

maybe I should have cylcled the tanks with goldfish insted
anyone want some cons?
I was juist asking if it was normal for the 3rd wheel to have better colors then the mateing pair
Colour fade (greying) is a normal trait that will come and go with cons. It's generally mood based in my experience and doesn't have a lot to do with health most of the time.
I'd fully advise against keeping two males and one female together if possible though, it's not a good set-up. Two fems to one male can sometimes work ok but having two rival males competing for one female is looking for trouble.
when I got these fish I told them to give me the ones most likely not to be sold because they were to be used for cycling
uhhh how badly beat up does the stand by get?
Kind of makes sense as i've seen some female cons get pretty fickle and will always go for the male wiht the most attitude. Leaves me to think that one of the males gets spread quite thin after looking after each batch and defending the territory, while the convalescing male gets stronger and stronger over tha tperiod, ready to take over as the female is approaching the next spawn session.
Are you concerned at all over the fish's health or anything like that or were you just wondering if that was typical behaviour?
they don't seem to be beat up at all they do chase the other one away but don't beat up on him
I hope I did this quoting right .... don't think I have figured it out yet and thanks for your posts JC and Fnesr