I had G. surinamensis rather than the "Tapajoes", but saw similar interaction to what you're talking about between my pair. It ended in me losing my female to the males over-enthusiasm to breed, so I would keep a close eye on them, it could turn nasty very quickly. My male was also quite a bit larger than my female.
I suspect, and this is just speculation, that the males become sexually mature much sooner than females. My male was ready to breed at around 2 years, the same as yours, but my female of the same age was just not that interested. I believe this is was the reason he ended up killing her. I can't really give any ideas on how to encourage spawning, except the usual methods for cichlids, but I did want to warn you to watch him.